Hey everyone, sorry for the lack of updates. I've been up at uni 24/7 and have not been coming home as much. I find this very refreshing and it helps me gain a little more alone time.Over the last few days I've been thinking about 'cliques' we get ourselves into. If you're not sure what a 'clique' is - it's a group of friends, normally associated with American high schools. After going through Grammar school with this kind of social orders which cannot be broken I assumed at university it would become all grown up where we interacted as adults and not a bunch of overgrown teenagers - but the cliques continued.
Before I give you the wrong impression I want to highlight that this is not aimed at tall girls in high heels, or a dark corner in the room where all the emo kids reside. It's actually a mindset some people seem to have, and it's actually not initially apparent. Actually I have only come to realise this in the past week or ever less.
People have friendship groups. We all have been a part of these and have witnessed these since we were all babies in sandpits - but does this go deeper than it looks on the surface?
Up at uni I have a pretty set group of friends, I'll be the first to admit. However outside this I have a lot of other people I would also be friends with. In fact everybody I meet in uni I try and talk to and to be friends with. This is all pretty normal, isn't it?
I found myself in classes with absolutely nobody I knew and I went up to people I didn't know and introduced myself and tried my best to make the effort. I found a few people would not make the effort back, but I continued making the effort. Weeks went by and eventually I gravitated to a few people who were making the effort back and were genuinely lovely people.
I started to wonder why I was being rejected by these people - who were sitting by themselves due to them rejecting me. I realised that they were so close to their friends in their 'cliques' outside the class that they refused to be friends with anybody else or let anybody else into their 'cliques'
It was a weird conclusion and I started to open my eyes to this notion of saying very strictly inside your friendship group. I thought it was idiotic and unnecessary. By accepting a friend are you rejecting another? By sitting on your own are you doing your friends back home a favour?
Maybe it comes down to insecurity, immaturity and self-confidence. I think you should never reject antibody's invitation to be friends. We all learn from each other and gain experiences because of each other - it's a shame to deny yourself because of so-called loyalty.
