Experiencing the experience.

I have been thinking recently about all the different things in life; all the different areas in life. In work, friendships, career, church, learning, parenting, and absolutely everything else we learn practically everything we know through experience, we learn how to be better in experience.

In work, if I make a terrible mistake and y'know a customer gets narky all you can say is that you'll do something different to get what they want perfect. You will try again, using what you've done wrong to show you how to do it better, and I think that's what's life's all about.

You see we can often be intimidated through lack of experience. Lets say career wise because generally it's the more experience the better; the more you've been through, witnessed, worked at and successfully achieved, the more it appeals to others and of course the more it helps us as the worker. Obviously not all experience is good experience (think abusive relationships) but in the long term - it really is. Although we get hurt and all the rest of it, without some bad experience we'd really be no better off. We'd never be able to pick ourselves and dust ourselves off. In fact if all we had was good experience as soon as we ran into bad experience we'd immediately be just be destroyed, and that would well, be then end of that because we haven't LEARNT how to deal with failure.

Experiencing anything in life is what makes our lives what they are, what makes us strong and honestly what makes us weak. We are weak because of previous (or current) life traumas which do hold us back from living with the dreaded 'What if?' question and the thought that actually it's comfortable here so I'm just going to stay here (even in misery). Yet naturally this is denying ourselves any breed of life experience at all.

You see we listen to these songs and watch these movies that tell us that all we need is to believe in ourselves yet we've all these people on the dole chasing big pipe dreams and not doing anything about it, waiting for a publisher, a movie producer, a recording artist to knock on their doors and offer them a job. We think if we listen to enough love songs and read enough books about people finding themselves on a road trip that suddenly we'll fall in love and it'll last forever and we'll discover who we are and it'll be wonderful and we can paint our houses lilac. It's just LIFE that we've got and life is what we have to embrace.

I just think life's too bloody short for crying about how hard your life is or telling everybody about why you're self-conscious or why you don't believe in love. I think what we should do is just wise the flip up and go out and meet people, go places take that chance and to a certain extent just don't ever look back. Life's an experience (not to sound too like a Marian Keys novels) and instead of being afraid we should just experience the experience and man up to what we have to to do be happy.